Ta for the pizza vibes, with it was real. My daughter climbed Vesuvius on a freezing, sleeting winter day. She said it was tough, but so worth it. I hope it was revelatory and inspirational to you as well. Love, T x
Oh, wow, pushing a pram, that would have been a killer! But, then again, that mountain moved the world. It’s grand to be in those inspirational places that actually made and showed us our history, including the old pizza oven. Rich Italian heritage for Italy there, huh? I’m so glad you have a had a wow of a holiday.
You deserved every slice of pizza and every step of that ancient, well not that ancient, volcano!
We own part of an old volcano too, but our one has been dormant millions of years. It has the scooped out part up top, is still in classic volcano shape, with the most magnificent views of about 100km all around. I love it.
Thank you for that post; it deeply resonated with me. Due to developments too long to describe here, I haven't left the country in (drum rolls) 19 years. It is an unbelievably long time that makes me yearn and beg for change, but it is how it is now. The life I had before was filled with frequent (often longer) international travel and stays. I miss the person I was when traveling and living overseas. Somewhere she is still around, buried underneath a heavy pile of need for safety and comfort not easily put aside. Just as you wrote. It's good to know that you found a way to travel again. Did you find traveling itself much different than in the years before? From what I read/see, places seem to be much more crowded than 20 years ago... Happy for you to be able to make the change and go out again!
Oh I love all your posts but this one resonated so deeply, especially as someone who spent 7 years travelling full-time, and ended up arriving in a new country just as the shit hit the fan, and has had to rewrite an entirely new relationship with travel - one where my only overseas trips are built around seeing my family and caregiving for my mum. I find it so hard to put into words why I don't travel much anymore, but in your words I see my story. Thank you, as always. And happy belated birthday! I hope you had a magical time and enjoy the homecoming as much as the departure x
Wow this was a very compelling read, Sabrina, well done! I enjoyed reading your honest and vulnerable story. For me, rest is not a reward but rather, a mandatory thing. It's like how you must charge your phone whether you like it or not. Or else your phone battery will be dead and you literally can't use it anymore. I also see how when I rest, I'm more able to do the high energy tasks I want to do. When I don't rest, I run on fumes and just do low energy tasks I didn't actually want to do. So every time I refuse to rest, I regret it later. (I literally waste lots of time when I refuse to rest. I waste the time on low energy tasks that I'm drawn to because I was too tired.) And so I encourage/ push myself to rest.
Also I love your idea of making small adjustments here and there to help yourself. I've been encouraging my clients to make small adjustments too, really highlighting the message that NO, they don't have to put up with unreasonable situations. There are many ways they can shift things for themselves (e.g. connecting with accommodations services at school). Or cancelling plans with a friend. I'm really teaching clients to see their life (their schedule) as more malleable than they think. They have more choice and control than they think. I also praise clients when they get better and better at doing this, asserting more control over what they do and when they do it in their life.
Thanks for your thoughtful comments as always Sieran. It was a very personal one for me and I'm getting more used to sharing those vulnerable aspects publicly.
I agree that rest needs to be seen differently so we prioritise it before it becomes a part of habit or routine.
I know about that regret when you push through and your body says nope, did too much!
It's tricky to balance the drive we often have with our physical limitations.
It's so rewarding how you're helping your clients shift their mindset and boundaries too.
Having permission from an external person, or at least someone saying it's OK to state our needs is a great way to kickstart that for ourselves.
Oh, Sabrina, this is the best post you've ever written.
Well done for travelling, have a wow of a time, and congratulations for overcoming your personal monsters.
I admire you tremendously.
Well done, I have that thing, forget what it's called, but it's where I feel joy because you are in a better place personally, as well as Naples.
Enjoy it all.
You so deserve it.
Tx
Wow Therese thanks so much for your comment. It's been a heck of a time but these things happen and I'm determined to find a better way through.
We can get a lot more done then we realise when we're aware of what's going on, and break the solution down.
Sending you pizza vibes, even though I'm back home now!
Ta for the pizza vibes, with it was real. My daughter climbed Vesuvius on a freezing, sleeting winter day. She said it was tough, but so worth it. I hope it was revelatory and inspirational to you as well. Love, T x
It was definitely worth it.
I didn't realise there was a shop at the top so bought a random snickers bar for the heck of it.
I saw a guy pushing a pram up there too.
Fascinating! X
Oh, wow, pushing a pram, that would have been a killer! But, then again, that mountain moved the world. It’s grand to be in those inspirational places that actually made and showed us our history, including the old pizza oven. Rich Italian heritage for Italy there, huh? I’m so glad you have a had a wow of a holiday.
You deserved every slice of pizza and every step of that ancient, well not that ancient, volcano!
We own part of an old volcano too, but our one has been dormant millions of years. It has the scooped out part up top, is still in classic volcano shape, with the most magnificent views of about 100km all around. I love it.
Thank you for that post; it deeply resonated with me. Due to developments too long to describe here, I haven't left the country in (drum rolls) 19 years. It is an unbelievably long time that makes me yearn and beg for change, but it is how it is now. The life I had before was filled with frequent (often longer) international travel and stays. I miss the person I was when traveling and living overseas. Somewhere she is still around, buried underneath a heavy pile of need for safety and comfort not easily put aside. Just as you wrote. It's good to know that you found a way to travel again. Did you find traveling itself much different than in the years before? From what I read/see, places seem to be much more crowded than 20 years ago... Happy for you to be able to make the change and go out again!
Thanks for reading and sharing that Petra.
19 years is a long time but I know you've got your reasons too. I hope you're able to do short local trips at least?
That's how I had to start. Worked with chatgpt to create some local travel plans to get OK with leaving for an extended time.
I still yearn for home and my comforts but am building up my tolerance.
But yes, Naples was ooh so crowded! Amazing place and pompei and vesuvius were highlights.
I'm looking forward to planning the next one but want it to be less hectic or crowded if possible.
Maybe one on and one off! It's all an experiment which makes it doable.
Sending lots of hugs your way xx
Lots of hugs back to you, Sabrina. We will be on our way sooner than we think now... ChatGPT is a great idea and source for that, too.
It definitely reduces friction which is a massive help. Hugs x
Oh I love all your posts but this one resonated so deeply, especially as someone who spent 7 years travelling full-time, and ended up arriving in a new country just as the shit hit the fan, and has had to rewrite an entirely new relationship with travel - one where my only overseas trips are built around seeing my family and caregiving for my mum. I find it so hard to put into words why I don't travel much anymore, but in your words I see my story. Thank you, as always. And happy belated birthday! I hope you had a magical time and enjoy the homecoming as much as the departure x
You've had the most fascinating life traveling Cassie but you're so right about how your relationship to it shifts when so much is going on in life.
I'm sorry you've had to go through what you've gone through, but hope you find some solace and comfort in not being the only one that's found it hard.
You're still doing so much despite it all.
For me, it was intense being away but a great experience and got me thinking about such different things.
It'll all still be there when your current phase shifts into the next. We don't know what adventure we'll want to take then xx
Wow this was a very compelling read, Sabrina, well done! I enjoyed reading your honest and vulnerable story. For me, rest is not a reward but rather, a mandatory thing. It's like how you must charge your phone whether you like it or not. Or else your phone battery will be dead and you literally can't use it anymore. I also see how when I rest, I'm more able to do the high energy tasks I want to do. When I don't rest, I run on fumes and just do low energy tasks I didn't actually want to do. So every time I refuse to rest, I regret it later. (I literally waste lots of time when I refuse to rest. I waste the time on low energy tasks that I'm drawn to because I was too tired.) And so I encourage/ push myself to rest.
Also I love your idea of making small adjustments here and there to help yourself. I've been encouraging my clients to make small adjustments too, really highlighting the message that NO, they don't have to put up with unreasonable situations. There are many ways they can shift things for themselves (e.g. connecting with accommodations services at school). Or cancelling plans with a friend. I'm really teaching clients to see their life (their schedule) as more malleable than they think. They have more choice and control than they think. I also praise clients when they get better and better at doing this, asserting more control over what they do and when they do it in their life.
Thanks for your thoughtful comments as always Sieran. It was a very personal one for me and I'm getting more used to sharing those vulnerable aspects publicly.
I agree that rest needs to be seen differently so we prioritise it before it becomes a part of habit or routine.
I know about that regret when you push through and your body says nope, did too much!
It's tricky to balance the drive we often have with our physical limitations.
It's so rewarding how you're helping your clients shift their mindset and boundaries too.
Having permission from an external person, or at least someone saying it's OK to state our needs is a great way to kickstart that for ourselves.
Such important work! Xx