Great post and you're spot on with the time it takes to grieve.
My dad died when I was 22 and it was five years before I didn't think about it every day. People expect us to 'get over it' after a few months, but that doesn't happen.
Grief is so often connected to loss. I also grieved when my marriage ended because I'd lost the dreams I once had about how the marriage would play out.
And I grieved again when I was made redundant from my corporate job after 16 years. Five years on and that still hurts.
Loss and grief are such raw topics I'm sure your newsletter will be of use to many of us.
Thanks for sharing your story Wendy and it resonates so much. There is no clear timeline is there, and these additional losses compound those we already carry.
I'm dealing with a very sick cat at the moment (Poppy) and it's bringing all those feelings and thoughts forward again.
They never really leave but fade or get parked for a bit.
Keeping a routine where possible and appreciating the good things and wins.
It's taken me a few days of starting and stopping reading your post to finish it (being with my family for the first time in a year while navigating all the complex grief that comes from losing a parent to Alzheimer’s while they're still here) and it's honestly been such a balm to read your words and to feel less alone with it all (even though i still feel so much about this current situation) and i just wanted to say thank you. I know it isn't an easy pivot and it isn't easy to talk about but gosh it feels so needed. Sending you big hugs!!
Thanks Cassie as always for your wonderfully kind words. And our amazing circles and chats too. You've helped me reconnect to what matters in such a helpful way. I know you're travelling at the moment and it'll be tough at times. Thinking of you and sending much love and hugs back too! Looking forward to our next catch up! xx
I remember talking to you about this not long after your Dad passed and how there isn't enough support/space in the world to deal with grief, and perhaps that is something to explore in your coaching. Maybe you needed time to get there, but I know that this realisation will help others!
Thanks Shaheena and you're so right. I think it was too raw then and also hard to find what I needed. So glad you've been there to be that for me across all our trials and tribulations bff xx
I'm really happy for you, for embracing instead of resisting, and for reflecting instead of insisting. I'm grateful for what you choose to share and can't wait to see what comes next! Thanks for being you
Sabrina, ‘congratulations’ is the wrong word for this post. But, I commend you for this breakthrough and for bringing us along with you on your journey. Thank you. The grief of losing a parent is one of those life-altering experiences that is hard to explain. You are the perfect guide for those struggling with this loss.
Thanks Michelle! I know what you mean and thanks for your support. It is life-altering but been helpful to have some space to reflect on where things stand and where to go next.
Great post and you're spot on with the time it takes to grieve.
My dad died when I was 22 and it was five years before I didn't think about it every day. People expect us to 'get over it' after a few months, but that doesn't happen.
Grief is so often connected to loss. I also grieved when my marriage ended because I'd lost the dreams I once had about how the marriage would play out.
And I grieved again when I was made redundant from my corporate job after 16 years. Five years on and that still hurts.
Loss and grief are such raw topics I'm sure your newsletter will be of use to many of us.
Thanks for sharing your story Wendy and it resonates so much. There is no clear timeline is there, and these additional losses compound those we already carry.
I'm dealing with a very sick cat at the moment (Poppy) and it's bringing all those feelings and thoughts forward again.
They never really leave but fade or get parked for a bit.
Keeping a routine where possible and appreciating the good things and wins.
Hope is what keeps us going.
It's taken me a few days of starting and stopping reading your post to finish it (being with my family for the first time in a year while navigating all the complex grief that comes from losing a parent to Alzheimer’s while they're still here) and it's honestly been such a balm to read your words and to feel less alone with it all (even though i still feel so much about this current situation) and i just wanted to say thank you. I know it isn't an easy pivot and it isn't easy to talk about but gosh it feels so needed. Sending you big hugs!!
Thanks Cassie as always for your wonderfully kind words. And our amazing circles and chats too. You've helped me reconnect to what matters in such a helpful way. I know you're travelling at the moment and it'll be tough at times. Thinking of you and sending much love and hugs back too! Looking forward to our next catch up! xx
I remember talking to you about this not long after your Dad passed and how there isn't enough support/space in the world to deal with grief, and perhaps that is something to explore in your coaching. Maybe you needed time to get there, but I know that this realisation will help others!
Thanks Shaheena and you're so right. I think it was too raw then and also hard to find what I needed. So glad you've been there to be that for me across all our trials and tribulations bff xx
I'm really happy for you, for embracing instead of resisting, and for reflecting instead of insisting. I'm grateful for what you choose to share and can't wait to see what comes next! Thanks for being you
So appreciate your support Derek! Love how you've put it too. It's been fun seeing you on your journey too. We're exploring together!
Sabrina, ‘congratulations’ is the wrong word for this post. But, I commend you for this breakthrough and for bringing us along with you on your journey. Thank you. The grief of losing a parent is one of those life-altering experiences that is hard to explain. You are the perfect guide for those struggling with this loss.
Thanks Michelle! I know what you mean and thanks for your support. It is life-altering but been helpful to have some space to reflect on where things stand and where to go next.