I deflect compliments as if I don't deserve them. I love compliments, but I tend not to believe them when they are offered. It's kind of like saying that they have no idea what they are talking about when they offer kind words to me. As if they've got it completely wrong and are ridiculous. I've been working on not over-explaining, so now I'm working on accepting compliments at face value and just appreciating them and the person who gave the compliment to me.
Yes put yourself in their shoes and how it feels when someone reacts to a compliment.i still find it tricky at times but it's nice not to deflect a nice gesture back at someone
Sabrina, my problem is that I've gotten very stingy with my energy. It's like the opposite of taking on too many commitments. I find that I'm unwilling to do more. Unwilling to write faster, unwilling to do DM outreach, unwilling to reach out to someone I know for something, unwilling to make a workshop or do any sales emails, and unwilling to do any friend or social in person hangouts.
Ugh I tell myself that if I don't do more work, how can I achieve financial independence? But then I just shut down and ignore. It's like I get tired easily and feel like I'm already doing a lot. And I don't want to do more, even though I'm still far from independence!
Also, I feel daunted thinking of successful entrepreneurs working 7 days a week, or 70-90 hours a week, or Tim saying you'll need to sometimes work 12 hour days. It seems like a dilemma, where if you want to become financially independent, you'll have to overwork and get burned out. But we're also trying to avoid burnout and overwork...
A fellow book coach, said that since she's dealing with some shenanigans with her clients, she feels no motivation to do her regular business admin. Kudos to people who manage to both handle current client issues, AND look for new clients at the same time.
Is it possible to have a healthy work-life balance, AND become financially independent? I know some people are willing to give up their health, friends, and hobbies for it, even temporarily, but I'm not willing...Especially since I developed some chronic health issues because I didn't care enough about protecting my health in the past.
Such great questions Sieran. I'm still working on this one and what the right balance is across all pillars.
And it changes through life phases and health ability too.
It sounds like you've got so much in your mental list that your body is overwhelmed and conserving energy.
I feel like this at times too.
So maybe just hone it right down into the smallest nibble of the first bite.
Trick your brain into what is possible. This is all part of a road map and we don't have to do it all at once. And we get to choose where we want to focus.
What appeals the most right now and feels the easiest. It's still valid.
God, I identity with all six. Gah.
Thanks for this post, this is so valuable.
I'm so glad you found it valuable Luciana. Start in one area and experiment with new approaches.
We're all working through it together
I deflect compliments as if I don't deserve them. I love compliments, but I tend not to believe them when they are offered. It's kind of like saying that they have no idea what they are talking about when they offer kind words to me. As if they've got it completely wrong and are ridiculous. I've been working on not over-explaining, so now I'm working on accepting compliments at face value and just appreciating them and the person who gave the compliment to me.
It's interesting when you accept them at face value without the mental wrestling.
It's still in the background but nice to be gracious and trust someone else's experience of you. Practice!
Thanks, I usually don’t feel like I deserve the compliments I’m given, so it’s kind of hard. But, I promise to practice, practice, practice, Sabrina.
Yes put yourself in their shoes and how it feels when someone reacts to a compliment.i still find it tricky at times but it's nice not to deflect a nice gesture back at someone
Sabrina, my problem is that I've gotten very stingy with my energy. It's like the opposite of taking on too many commitments. I find that I'm unwilling to do more. Unwilling to write faster, unwilling to do DM outreach, unwilling to reach out to someone I know for something, unwilling to make a workshop or do any sales emails, and unwilling to do any friend or social in person hangouts.
Ugh I tell myself that if I don't do more work, how can I achieve financial independence? But then I just shut down and ignore. It's like I get tired easily and feel like I'm already doing a lot. And I don't want to do more, even though I'm still far from independence!
Also, I feel daunted thinking of successful entrepreneurs working 7 days a week, or 70-90 hours a week, or Tim saying you'll need to sometimes work 12 hour days. It seems like a dilemma, where if you want to become financially independent, you'll have to overwork and get burned out. But we're also trying to avoid burnout and overwork...
A fellow book coach, said that since she's dealing with some shenanigans with her clients, she feels no motivation to do her regular business admin. Kudos to people who manage to both handle current client issues, AND look for new clients at the same time.
Is it possible to have a healthy work-life balance, AND become financially independent? I know some people are willing to give up their health, friends, and hobbies for it, even temporarily, but I'm not willing...Especially since I developed some chronic health issues because I didn't care enough about protecting my health in the past.
Such great questions Sieran. I'm still working on this one and what the right balance is across all pillars.
And it changes through life phases and health ability too.
It sounds like you've got so much in your mental list that your body is overwhelmed and conserving energy.
I feel like this at times too.
So maybe just hone it right down into the smallest nibble of the first bite.
Trick your brain into what is possible. This is all part of a road map and we don't have to do it all at once. And we get to choose where we want to focus.
What appeals the most right now and feels the easiest. It's still valid.