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Gosh, I'm a month or so late getting to this one - I've definitely been teetering on the burnout vs overcommitting cycle and my piling-up inbox has been holding far too many prisoners, but I'm so grateful I saved it. Reading it felt like a breath of fresh air, as always. Thank you so much for sharing! This ego battle somehow feels extra hard when combined with grief and all the other things coming off the back of the past month, but your words are a gentle balm 💜
Haha! Letters by boat or carrier pigeon sounds perfect. Have you ever heard about correspondence chess? The record for the longest time between moves is eight years (WWII disrupted postal services and got in the way). I've always loved that. Like yeah, life gets in the way but the people and things that really matter will always find a way. Thanks for this permission slip! Appreciate it and you as always 💜
Oooh I have heard of this. Didn't realise it lasted that long but it's such an antidote to the modern world and speed. Look forward to your next move and writings. Enjoying them as always 💜
#4 or bust! I'm the world's greatest grudge-holder. I can hold onto grudges for a lifetime without batting an eyelash or giving it a second thought. However, as I've gotten older I've learned that that may not be the best thing for me although it always felt good in my younger days. I'm much more flexible, but of course there are some lines with me that shouldn't be crossed - lines that hit up against my values. But even then, I'm much better at continuing to see the whole person instead of focusing on an all or nothing attitude.
How do you always get me to divulge my deep, dark secrets 😁?
Thanks for your openness on this one. I too can hold a grudge like anything. But I'm glad you mentioned values. That's usually what underpins my steadfastness, or that I'm getting better at managing my boundaries.
The trick is knowing when it's helping or hindering a values- based life. Flexibility is what's useful.
Great ponder Sabrina! Thanks for sharing. The one in my face...the almost inaudible but deep seated voice convincing me "I can't." I'm calling it out these days. Playing paint ball with it so I can see it better.
Thanks for reading Connie. Ah the 'I can't' story. Glad you're getting curious about that one. It gets in the way of a lot. What does believing that provide you i.e. the benefit of listening to it?
Thanks for asking. I hadn't put the pieces together until just now...I'm finding it keeps me from stepping out of my comfort zone. The comfort of external sensationalization keeping me entertained and feeling some level of excitement. I'm working my butt off to learn to relax. haha! To rewire so the mind doesn' t take over. So I can be present. And so I can start to feel the intensity of the essence of the present moment. The "I can't" has been my excuse I didn't even realize I was using to not have to sit in the boring feeling of retraining into mindfulness.
I like your description of ego, it's simple to understand. Overcommitting, not asking for help and refusing to change course are areas that I struggle with.
Thanks Wendy, glad that description was helpful. I found it useful too whilst writing, as I struggle with those areas, and the others! It's good to have some hooks to use when we question why we're doing something that goes against our overall goals.
A fear of change together with a social expectation of resilience seems to be at the basis of all. I liked the "have a project" part best; it will open up new possibilities most likely. Thanks Sabrina.
Gosh, I'm a month or so late getting to this one - I've definitely been teetering on the burnout vs overcommitting cycle and my piling-up inbox has been holding far too many prisoners, but I'm so grateful I saved it. Reading it felt like a breath of fresh air, as always. Thank you so much for sharing! This ego battle somehow feels extra hard when combined with grief and all the other things coming off the back of the past month, but your words are a gentle balm 💜
Aww appreciate that Cassie.
You're carrying such a load. It must be very tough.
Give yourself grace. We can pretend these are letters sent by boat, so don't feel rushed to reply.
Let's allow the pondering x
Haha! Letters by boat or carrier pigeon sounds perfect. Have you ever heard about correspondence chess? The record for the longest time between moves is eight years (WWII disrupted postal services and got in the way). I've always loved that. Like yeah, life gets in the way but the people and things that really matter will always find a way. Thanks for this permission slip! Appreciate it and you as always 💜
Oooh I have heard of this. Didn't realise it lasted that long but it's such an antidote to the modern world and speed. Look forward to your next move and writings. Enjoying them as always 💜
#4 or bust! I'm the world's greatest grudge-holder. I can hold onto grudges for a lifetime without batting an eyelash or giving it a second thought. However, as I've gotten older I've learned that that may not be the best thing for me although it always felt good in my younger days. I'm much more flexible, but of course there are some lines with me that shouldn't be crossed - lines that hit up against my values. But even then, I'm much better at continuing to see the whole person instead of focusing on an all or nothing attitude.
How do you always get me to divulge my deep, dark secrets 😁?
Ha Shelby, I'm just a jedi...
Thanks for your openness on this one. I too can hold a grudge like anything. But I'm glad you mentioned values. That's usually what underpins my steadfastness, or that I'm getting better at managing my boundaries.
The trick is knowing when it's helping or hindering a values- based life. Flexibility is what's useful.
Great ponder Sabrina! Thanks for sharing. The one in my face...the almost inaudible but deep seated voice convincing me "I can't." I'm calling it out these days. Playing paint ball with it so I can see it better.
Thanks for reading Connie. Ah the 'I can't' story. Glad you're getting curious about that one. It gets in the way of a lot. What does believing that provide you i.e. the benefit of listening to it?
Thanks for asking. I hadn't put the pieces together until just now...I'm finding it keeps me from stepping out of my comfort zone. The comfort of external sensationalization keeping me entertained and feeling some level of excitement. I'm working my butt off to learn to relax. haha! To rewire so the mind doesn' t take over. So I can be present. And so I can start to feel the intensity of the essence of the present moment. The "I can't" has been my excuse I didn't even realize I was using to not have to sit in the boring feeling of retraining into mindfulness.
I like your description of ego, it's simple to understand. Overcommitting, not asking for help and refusing to change course are areas that I struggle with.
Thanks Wendy, glad that description was helpful. I found it useful too whilst writing, as I struggle with those areas, and the others! It's good to have some hooks to use when we question why we're doing something that goes against our overall goals.
A fear of change together with a social expectation of resilience seems to be at the basis of all. I liked the "have a project" part best; it will open up new possibilities most likely. Thanks Sabrina.
Thanks Figen, that blend keeps us stuck over and over doesn’t it? What kind of project are you considering?