I found this really interesting thank you - I'd not heard of the 2x2 model before, but it makes a lot of sense. I've been reading a lot by Dr Thomas Curran and his definition of perfectionism is one in which we have high standards due to not feeling good enough - he argues that we can have high standards without feeling like a failure if things aren't perfect, which matches with your description of the "ambitious achiever" sweet spot. He says that if that's the case, we're not actually a perfectionist, because we need those two aspects (high standards AND not feeling good enough) to fit the definition, which was an eye-opener for me!
Thanks for sharing, you've made me want to dive deeper into the literature on this (again - I'm another recovering perfectionist!) x
Thanks so much for reading and your thoughtful comment Lucy. It's been such an interesting space to research. Various models but those similar core drivers.
I like the ambitious achiever grouping - striving isn't bad in and of itself.
Like most things, we learn to use those talents and motivations in ways that enhance our values, without becoming unhealthy or unsustainable.
Oh I loved reading this. Thank you! I especially enjoyed the "good enough" and the 100 x 1%. I'm definitely very guilty of the oh no 1 x 100%, it's soooo hard, I'm tired, it'll never be good enough so why even bother style of procrasti-perfectionism. I'll try my best to put some of those steps into action this week :) xx
I found this really interesting thank you - I'd not heard of the 2x2 model before, but it makes a lot of sense. I've been reading a lot by Dr Thomas Curran and his definition of perfectionism is one in which we have high standards due to not feeling good enough - he argues that we can have high standards without feeling like a failure if things aren't perfect, which matches with your description of the "ambitious achiever" sweet spot. He says that if that's the case, we're not actually a perfectionist, because we need those two aspects (high standards AND not feeling good enough) to fit the definition, which was an eye-opener for me!
Thanks for sharing, you've made me want to dive deeper into the literature on this (again - I'm another recovering perfectionist!) x
Thanks so much for reading and your thoughtful comment Lucy. It's been such an interesting space to research. Various models but those similar core drivers.
I like the ambitious achiever grouping - striving isn't bad in and of itself.
Like most things, we learn to use those talents and motivations in ways that enhance our values, without becoming unhealthy or unsustainable.
My intention is to Evict the Perfection Witch, who is a freeloader on my shoulder! She pays no rent and has no right to live here, Sabrina. NONE!
Good enough is better than nothing at all 🎯
Love this persona Donna!
Definitely outstayed her welcome!
Be gone! 💥
BAMM🎯
Oh I loved reading this. Thank you! I especially enjoyed the "good enough" and the 100 x 1%. I'm definitely very guilty of the oh no 1 x 100%, it's soooo hard, I'm tired, it'll never be good enough so why even bother style of procrasti-perfectionism. I'll try my best to put some of those steps into action this week :) xx
Sorry I missed this reply!
Hope you've been able to put the tips into use.
We often don't realise we're doing it either. Xx
Reframing is my all time favorite!
It's a great tool isn't it Magdalena, especially if we're prone to ignoring the good stuff!